I suck at math.
I suck at money management.
I like to shop, especially when I am depressed.
That combination has been deadly for my family's budget (or lack thereof) over the years. And money is always a source of stress for me. We are never in danger of repossession or foreclosure or anything serious like that, but there are always bills that are 15 or 30 days late, overdraft fees, late fees, forgotten bills, etc.
Several times I have decided (and even told the husband) I was going to hand it all over to him to handle, or we would do it all together, and then for whatever reason (embarrassment over the pickle we were currently in, pride, a new resolve to be better at it) I didn't do it, and continued being the family's horribly bad money handler.
But yesterday I finally did it. I collected it all up, wrote down all the pertinent information, passwords, account numbers etc., and gave it all to the husband.
It's all on him now.
And it feels so good!!!!
4 comments:
When Dh was unemployed, that was tough---I just couldn't deal with no paycheck coming in so I turned the bill paying over to him. I was working, but as an adjunct instructor, which pays %^&*, so it was a huge relief to turn it over to him. Phew....
Good for you!
Excellent job! We developed a system where we email eachother when we pay bills (with the confirmation). I have had some mistakes, and so has he. But we are in generally good shape. We tried the "he handles it" and the "I handle it" and neither works. It is all about finding what works for you.
I did this a few years ago because the spouse with ADD should not be the spouse who handles the checkbook!
Now I never have to hear about how much money is left after paying the bills.
I need to do this too. I could have written this post myself. seriously. Maybe you just gave me the kick in the pants i need.
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